February 15, 2011
Adventure… ‘In the heart of Pennsylvania’s Laurel Highlands… ‘ We slipped and slid our way down an icy snowy road…
I bit my tongue as our four-wheel drive tackled the road… I have been on enough adventures to avoid disclosing my fear. I just held my breath.
Lesley’s Mountain View Country Inn… We found it.
We pulled into the drive piled high with snowdrifts. We pulled around to the back side of the inn…
We found an entrance and a light…
The inn “offers lodging and fine dining with a casual elegance and convenient access to”… area attractions…
Uhhh. Do you think they’re open? I asked my husband who planned the surprise getaway… ‘Sure…’ and out he popped to enter the door you see here… And he was right. How could I have doubted it?
As with questions posed in the past two posts, other questions–sometimes asked by doctors but also asked by our friends and family members and even our employers–include things like, “Why don’t you exercise everyday?” and “Do you smoke?” or “Do you drink?” Doctors may ask, “How many sexual partners have you had?” which is different than if our friend asked the same question or our parent asked…
The fact is that people usually try to be polite when asking questions…whether it is a question about the ends of the earth to which your romantic destination takes you…or… about health… At least, we think we are trying to be polite…
Negative Face Question: I was wondering if you would mind discussing your diet with me?
Positive Face Question: How can you help your athletic team improve their diets in order to improve their performance?
Negative Face Question: How many sexual partners have you had?
Positive Face Question: How can you improve your understanding with safe sex?
Positive Face Question: How can you help your partner better understand the benefits of practicing safe sex?
Negative Face Question: “I was wondering if you would be willing to discuss safer sex practices with your partner?”
Negative Face Question: Doctor saying to the patient “I was hoping you would take a look at some information pertaining to some clinical trials in relation to your health concern.”
Positive Face Question: How can you help your patients better understand the health information for the clinical trial on the informed consent?
Negative face threating question: I was hoping that you would be willing to consider practicing safe sex with your sexual partner?
Positive face threating question: Do you think that it would be safer for you if you practiced safe sex with every partner?